It’s officially 2019 - HAPPY NEW YEAR!
At the start of every new year it is a good time to reflect back on the past year and think about what small steps you can take to make this year better than the last.
Yes, we are talking about NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS…
If you feel good about the New Year Resolutions you’ve set, WAY TO GO! However, it will still be good for you to read through to the end of this blog in hopes to better understand the ways in which we can get in our own way and deter ourselves from accomplishing what seems so important to us at the start of the year.
Today we want to discuss FEELINGS…
It can be hard for many of us to talk about our feelings - don’t worry that is not what we are asking you to do.
We are asking you to think about them, observe them, and see how they relate to your actions. HINT: feelings affect how we act thus affecting how we make decisions!
You may be thinking to yourself, no way, I make practical decisions based on a pros & cons list - which is great - but the final decision comes down to the fact that we feel good or feel bad about taking a certain action. Just think about when you are deciding to buy something - the pro and con list are just adding fuel to either side of feeling good about buying or not buying the product.
We are not going to get too deep into the Psychology behind this, as we are not psychologists, but look into the reference list for more reading material!!
Ok, so back to how this information will help you stick to your New Year Resolutions, or any goal. If you got our Newsletter on Wednesday we spoke about connecting to your WHY. Your why helps you to stay on track because it gives you the reason, motivation,and/or will, to keep going.
Today we want to connect this why to your feelings allowing the decisions you make to align with your NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS!
For example if your resolution is to exercise more in 2019 and your why is to move better, feel better and have more energy - then lets focus on the feelings you have when you are not exercising. Then think about the feelings you have when you do exercise more. Connect your goal to positive feelings and you will more likely stick to it!
If when you exercise 3x a week you have more energy to get tasks done and just feel more confident, focus on the feeling of more confidence, or the feeling of accomplishment. That way when the pro and con list comes up about whether or not to skip tomorrow’s workout, you have given the feeling of confidence and accomplishment more power to help you say - I’m not skipping!!
Though this is a very brief discussion on the idea, just try it and see if it works for you!
Wright, Robert (2017) Why Buddhism is True. Simon & Schuster Paperbacks: New York.
Gazzaniga, Michael. 2011. Who’s in Charge? Free Will and the Science of the Brain. Ecco
Hume, David. 1984. A Treatise of Human Nature. Peguin.